When mastered, the skills below often negate a need to use energetic or psychic shielding. However, at the very least, work on developing these skills to reduce your dependence on shielding, sharpen your shielding techniques, and reduce your energy drain.
Sensitive people attract needy and sometimes toxic people. That's a fact.
Take responsibility for yourself.
By setting your own boundaries, you’re telling others how you want and expect to be treated; in other words, you are setting your limits about who can come into your space and what you expect of others once they’re there—how you want to be spoken to, touched, and treated psychologically and emotionally. Whatever you say goes, no matter what others may think, feel, or believe.
You are not responsible for the feelings, actions, and beliefs of others, or for the way they react to the boundaries you’ve set.
Resilience is the psychological quality that allows some people to be knocked down by the adversities of life and come back at least as strong as before. Rather than letting difficulties, traumatic events, or failure overcome them and drain their resolve, highly resilient people find a way to change course, emotionally heal, and continue moving toward their goals.
Specific resilience-building skills can be learned. These include breaking out of negative thought cycles, pushing back against catastrophizing, and looking for upsides when faced with setbacks.
Science shows multiple factors make a person more resilient, such as a positive attitude, optimism, the ability to regulate emotions, and the ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback.
Optimism, for instance, has been shown to help blunt the impact of stress on the mind and body in the wake of disturbing experiences. That gives people access to their own cognitive resources, enabling cool-headed analysis of what might have gone wrong and consideration of behavioral paths that might be more productive.
WALK IN YOUR POWER™
Self-empowerment is about taking control of your own life, and making positive decisions based on what you want. It's closely linked to attributes like self-esteem and self-confidence , but true empowerment comes when you convert intention into action.
Walking in your Power means giving yourself permission to succeed. Bear in mind that "empowerment" is not the same as "entitlement." People who feel entitled tend to believe that benefits and privileges should come to them automatically, while empowered people achieve success through hard work, reflection and cooperation.
Tips for How to Walk In Your Power
Develop Self-Awareness: Examples include considering the needs and feelings of others, taking responsibility for your mistakes, being humble about your strengths, being mindful with words spoken (rather than thoughtless), being aware of how your words and actions affect others...
Consider Your Locus of Control: Your locus of Control has a bearing on your long-term success. People who develop an internal locus of control believe they are responsible for their own success. An internal locus of control is needed to Walk In Your Power. Those with an external locus of control believe that external forces, like luck, determine their outcomes, blocking their path to empowerment.
Adopt a Mindset that Fosters Learning and Growth: A fixed mindset is the belief that your intelligence, talents and other abilities are set in stone. You believe that you're born with a particular set of skills and that you can't change them. If you have a growth mindset, you believe that, with effort, perseverance and drive, you can develop your natural qualities. A growth mindset is needed to Walk In Your Power.
Analyze Your Strengths and Weaknesses: Listing all of the things that you're good at – and that you could be great at – can be hugely empowering in itself. Building on those strengths, and knowing how to deal with your limitations, can give you an even bigger boost.
IDENTIFY WHAT YOU WANT
Download , print and complete this Wheel of Life PDF to get in touch with what you want.
Create an Action Plan: After identifying what you want and what your goals are, it's time to make a plan and put it into action. Answer yourself these questions to get started... "What needs to happen?", "When does it need to happen?", and "In what order does it need to happen?"
GROW YOUR SKILLS
Learn New Skills and Refresh Existing Ones: Instead of sitting around whining about why you just can't even, take action and go out there and develop your competencies. No more excuses. A lack of skills is a temporary situation- skills can be learned and relearned. Go improve your game and feel good about yourself!
To avoid becoming overwhelmed, start small, and work your way up to bigger steps.